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40 in my 40s

I met a girl around 1983. She was witty, imaginative, brave, brilliant, and resilient. She became my best friend. In high school, we drifted apart. Years (and years, and years) later, we reconnected online. I’m happy to report she continues to be witty, imaginative, brave, brilliant, and resilient. Earlier this week, she posted 40 dreams she intends to fulfill in her forties. I was inspired, so I compiled my own list. Thanks, Jen Kohan, for being my friend. I love you.

  • Take a martial arts class

  • Publish a book

  • Learn to cook Indian cuisine

  • Visit New Zealand

  • Hike a 14er

  • Go whale watching

  • Do the splits

  • Spend a day poetry busking

Photo by  Matthew LeJune  on  Unsplash
  • Learn how to shoot with a bow and arrow

  • See Hamilton

  • Make my own perfume

  • Learn calligraphy

  • Visit Neuschwanstein

  • Attend a black-tie event

  • Intentionally eat vegetarian at least once a week

  • Go to the National Poetry Slam

Mwende "FreeQuency" Katwiwa is a 26 year old Kenyan, Immigrant, Queer Womyn speaker and performer. A 2017 TEDWomen speaker and ranked 3rd at the 2015 Individual World Poetry Slam, FreeQuency is an internationally touring author, host, youth-worker, social-justice lecturer, teaching artist and workshop leader who has spent her life at the intersection of arts, education and activism.
  • Grow (and maintain) an herb garden

  • Join a book club

  • Visit Iguazu Falls

  • Knit 100 hats for Knots of Love

  • Learn to sew

  • Fly first class

  • See a Cirque du Soleil show

  • Yarn bomb

From   Getting Bombed in Boise: Yarn Bombing and Libraries     by Ruth Patterson Funabiki
  • Visit the Grand Canyon

  • Go to ten museums I’ve never visited

  • Pose for an art class

  • Donate 100 hours to local charities

  • Become an audiobook narrator

  • Give away free hugs

  • Visit Iceland

  • Fold 1000 origami cranes in a year

Photo by  Ben Wilkins  on  Unsplash

Photo by Ben Wilkins on Unsplash

Photo by  ian dooley  on  Unsplash

Photo by ian dooley on Unsplash

Full disclosure: It took me HOURS to write this, because I kept forgetting to send, and then losing the whole thing and having to start over. Did I write this first in Word? Yes. Did I then delete that document prior to saving it? Of course I did. So, my forty things kept changing slightly. I remembered one from an earlier draft, and it’s important. I need to add one more thing. So, this is now 41 in my 40s:

OK. With that out of the way, I also invite you to hit me up if you have any connections, or can help me cross any of these off my list! I’m excited!