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On Friendship

Women just understand me better.
— Joe Mansplainer

Real talk. Are you a guy who feels more comfortable around women? Do you worry about what other men think when they see you, bonding with your female friends? I mean, it’s not a big deal. Some guys just connect more with women than they do with men. 

I’m sure if you’re anything like me, you've hit up other men to find out if they're cool with guys preferring the friendship of females over males. The opinions of other men — men we may not even know — that feedback matters. 

I mean, let’s be honest. As a whole, being friends with men takes so much effort. None of them really know how to listen. They’re always competing with each other. Then, there's professional sports. Cars. Hooking up with women without giving a damn about their feelings.

Don’t even get me started on the guy drama.

Sometimes, a guy just needs a night of pampering with his ladies, watch Lifetime movies, or bake cookies. Again, OBVIOUSLY not going to find any other guys who would be down for that sort of evening.

And wine nights. WINE. NIGHTS. Have you ever seen a group of guys sipping sauv blanc and laughing the night away on a rooftop bar?


Now, before you jump down my throat, allow me to clarify a few things:

  1. I am not anti-man. Guys are good people. I just can’t find the kinship with them that I can in women.
  2. It’s not about the sexual attraction. I know that being surrounded by women might make me look like I’m just desperate for female attention. It’s not possible that I do so without having some kind of plot to hook up with them. Really. Have some more respect for yourself, and for me.
  3. Just because I’m a guy who prefers hanging out with girls, it doesn’t mean I don’t like being a man. I’ll still wear my Broncos jersey and drink my Coors Lite. It’s also possible that I’ll be talking about skincare regimens while doing so. 
  4. I do have a few guy friends who are super chill. And for that, I’m totally grateful. Good guy friends are hard to find, so know that I’m aware of how special it is to have found a couple. YOU GUYS ROCK.

So, to the guys who don’t understand this, just know that some of us are different, OK? We’re still good people, and it’s not like we’re saying you, personally, are part of the problem. It’s all the OTHER guys. You know who I’m talking about. Man. Friendships are hard.

And lo! she camped.

I'm glad it's finally hot enough to complain about how hot it is.